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Tuesday, February 21, 2006

exams..

ok. wouldn't be blogging till thurs due to exams. bud tag will still be on. =)) anyway, i passed by this interesting article. want to voice my view out. bold is the writer emphasise one. the one in read is i agree. =x its long. so if ya not interested. den you can tag me straight. xD

-start-

Boy and girl meet. They realize they live and work near one another. They begin hanging out -very casually- often calling each other with a "Hey! I'm in the area, want to hang out?"

A few weeks pass with them dropping by each other's place and they realize they enjoy spending time together and there is attraction.

Sounds like a great start, right?

If you're a guy, sure! But apparently, if you're female, this is something that should make you mad!

What am I talking about? Wooing the girl.

The guy and girl, first casual friends, realized they're attracted to each other. Perhaps they even start to kiss and share happy sentiments. The girl then announces, "Wait! I'm mad at you, you didn't even woo me!"

The girl clarifies that she is mad that there were no romantic dinners, no sweet gestures such as flowers, no planning for when they would see each other next. Hence, she cannot allow herself to like the guy because he did not "woo" her.

If attraction develops through get-togethers, is there something invalid about it?

Does a guy have to "woo" a girl through the traditional nonsense such as dinner and movies in order for the girl to be comfortable enough to like him? Why doesn't just hanging out count as wooing? I think that might actually be a better way of figuring out that you're attracted to someone, through relaxed casual interaction rather than in the confines of a "formal" date.

Even more nonsensical is for a girl to backtrack on their feelings because they feel that they weren't wooed enough. It's like saying, "We both like each other. But too bad, I need to feel like you put more effort into winning me over". So even though the girl likes the guy, she will refrain from allowing herself to enjoy the sensation of attraction. I would love a girl to explain to me how this is logical.

What's the proper thing to do? Sure it's great for the guy to be romantic, and he will be, but does it make sense to penalize him for not wooing the girl from the beginning?

It's much better if attraction develops while hanging out in casual get-togethers. It's a sign that the attraction is a natural chemistry between the two. Guys easily appreciate the good things that come their way. So when we feet attracted to someone, it's great! We don't think about how the attraction came to be or what actions were take, we just enjoy the sentiment. It's simple - girl and boy like each other, why make it be so complicated?

- end -

actually. i somehow agree with him on some points la. y muz wooing be part of the 'criteria' for choosing someone? as in yes. if one party wants to make the other one attract to them. bud if both share the same attraction, y makes things so long-winded? as in. hangouts, when u feel comfortable, its more den enuff aint it?

instead, i tink the 'wooing' stuffs are somehow done when the 2 parties are together. this is where the romantic stuffs and dinners starts coming in. because of the natural chemistry. isnt that so? y base on a guys 'wooing' skills and decide when to accept him when in your heart is ming ming lyk him? is 'wooing' really that important now?

- this only applies to both parties lyk each other. dun misunderstood -

oh well. sometimes girls are weird. so are guys. everyone is. i dunno y. oh well. guess i'm going weird too. how i wish the girl i lyk oso lyk me back. the romantic stuffs can take place when we are together. naturally. bud this thing seldom seems to come. oh well. may god bless. gotta study now! maths! here i come! i feel hungry. =.= nites guys!

darkside illusions 1:15 AM

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